Episodes
Wednesday Sep 25, 2024
Wednesday Sep 25, 2024
Garth Heckman
The David Alliance
TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com
What are your top five greatest days…
Hmm…. When I accepted Christ, When I got married, When my boys accepted Christ… When I was told my cancer was in remission and I would not be dying any time soon… now thats four… what would the other be… and in what rank?
I was talking to someone recently and I said…
It was the second best day of my life.
And they said “wow…. What was the first?”(someone asks:what was the first?)
Me: I said - It hasn’t happened yet,
Now here is a question… what would be the best day of my life - how would I know what it is if I have not yet seen it or experienced it?
Pretty simple actually…
its when I see Jesus!
Why will it be the best day of my life…
Oh I can rattle of a bunch of reasons…
See my family
Live in Christ presence forever
No more sickness or disease
Worship with the greatest saints
I get a mansion, a crown and an inheritance…
But mostly it will be the greatest
And here is the best of all. Jeremiah 32:40: “I will make with them an everlasting covenant, that I will not turn away from doing good to them. And I will put the fear of me in their hearts, that they may not turn from me.”
When we enter into our reward, we will be fully and finally sanctified. That is, we will be fully and finally holy. There will be no more sin, no more desire for sin in us. We will have no more sin nature in us; we will be altogether good. We, like God Himself, will be free to do evil, were we so to desire, but we would never so desire because we will be altogether good. This is one of the greatest promises of eternity, that the struggle within ourselves between the old and the new man, between the Spirit and the flesh will be over. We will be at peace; we will enter into rest. Our warfare will have ended.
No more sin nature… now thats a good day, a best day and in fact a best eternity….
Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen. (Jude 24–25)
Think of it like this…
Since “the wages of sin is death” (Romans 6:23, NIV), the promise of no more death on the New Earth is synonymous with a promise of no more sin. Since sinners always die, those who are promised they will never die are being promised they will not sin anymore.
News flash… I still struggle with sin… I do believe its less and less each year and I am still trying to be completely sinless… will I achieve it? Probably not… but Im giving it a fighting chance.
So what is this about today… simply to revel in a sinless existence in eternity…. Well, sure. But it is ultimately to give us hope and give us AWE into who God is. We can rest, rejoice in the middle of a sinful struggle in our flesh that someday that will no longer be an issue… and for that I am and will be forever grateful.
Sunday Jun 09, 2024
Sunday Jun 09, 2024
So many mornings while I was a church planter doing lots and lots of stuff by myself.. and there is a lot of work if you are church planter… but anyway, I would sing this song about me being a church planter….
Ridin' down the highway
Goin' to a show
Stop in all the byways
Playin' rock 'n' roll
Gettin' robbed
Gettin' stoned
Gettin' beat up
Broken-boned
Gettin' had
Gettin' took
I tell you, folks
It's harder than it looks
It's a long way to the top if you wanna rock 'n' roll
It's a long way to the top if you wanna rock 'n' roll
And thats where we are going today
WTFU Slayer…
GH with the TDA
Reach out to me at TDAgiantslayer@gmail.com
Im back…. Shoulders suck… but I am back.
Will I hit my 60 year birthday goals?? Not sure at this point.
Lets jump into today…
THEN GO TO THESSALONICA
The city;
Originally named therma… then in 350 BC renamed Thessalonica after the half sister of Alexander the Great!
It has survived thru out History… now called Thessaloniki.
In WW2 it was captured by Germany and had 60,000 Jews exterminated.
POPULATION 200,000 - one of the largest most diverse cities.
Major trade routes by land and sea.
A major military point.
It was self governed city… peace kept by the people was a premium… TOLERANCE.
*It was a city for everyone: it had mystics it had cults it had different philosophies, and schools of thought. Different religions from all of the world, EVEN MYSTERY RELIGIONS, Egyptian Gods
…and of course a huge mix syncretism.
It had a massive twisted sexual practice of all things being accepted!
**BUT THE RELIGIONS, and the sexual culture AND THE POLITICAL SYSTEM WERE VERY SYMBIOTIC
WELCOME TO THE USA
Go preach to the Thessalonians after 3 1/2 weeks in the synagogue
*a handful of Jews and converted Gentiles come to Christ…
there is a riot, and this time they take off without a fight.
Paul travels to Corinth 3 to 6 months later
due to a huge burden he sends Timothy to Thessalonica and finds out about how well they're doing. And then shoot this letter off to them.
Great things can come from small, hard or enduring beginnings if you are in alignment in WITH three major areas. So if you're in a relationship or the business partnership with another believer or in a best friend relationship, make sure that it's a small allegiance you agree on these FEW things, or it will end badly. (Thinking of Hannah K)
NO MATTER THEIR CULTURE
THEIR OPPOSITION
THEIR CIRCUMSTANCE
THEIR WAITING PERIOD
THERE WAS ZERO ROOM FOR ANY COMPROMISE
And they practiced holiness… What do I mean.
They stood out because of their intimacy with Jesus and not just what they stood against. I don’t care if you hate our current president… Do you Love Jesus, are you intimate with him. Are you telling others about him due to your love for him?
Friday Aug 25, 2023
Monday Aug 14, 2023
Monday Aug 14, 2023
The ones who could best predict which couples were most likely to divorce were the pastoral counselors, the long-married people and those who had divorced.
*Marriage therapists, counselors and marriage researchers did the worst. I think they are overly attuned to marital problems. They tend to think everyone is unhappy.
***With the benefit of experience and having seen many marriages both good and bad, older spouses were quite good at this task.
The emotional story for long-tern marriages is really quite positive. People who get through the first 15 years of marriage learn to value each other.
- They don’t have a lot of contempt for one another. - They accept each other.
- They take pride in one another’s accomplishments.
- There’s this genuine respect for one another.
- They are no longer engaged in futile attempts to change one another.
- You increase in patience for each other
- You understand each other better and better
- You go beyond lovers and partners to best friends
- You learn to share more tasks in marriage
- Greater and greater boundaries emerge
- Those whose lives are most difficult benefit most from a long term marriage
(you handle stress and problems better than others)
the married women also had lower risk of cardiovascular disease, less depression and loneliness,
were happier and more optimistic, and had a greater sense of purpose and hope.
More long term marital relationships… what many people come to realize is that when you divorce you no longer have the same couple relationships that you had with your spouse.
Friday Aug 04, 2023
Friday Aug 04, 2023
8-2-23
Intro: Mom and her injury… how a spouse takes care of you.
P. 1a
The new movie Openhimer with Matt Damon, Robert Downey Jr and others…
Matt talked exclusively about talking through issues in marriage counseling about taking time off and making movies etc… and how his wife has really helped him in tough times in acting through out their 20 year relationship.
P. 1b
What are careers that do better or actually need healthy relationships in order for the business to function properly and be successful.
I will give you the opposite example… a movie star hollywood elite… they can go through 20 relationships and really never have it affect their career success.
Here is my short list of careers that need healthy relationships.
Farmers
Pastors or anyone in ministry
Therapists or counselors
Offshore or traveling careers (crabbers, salesmen etc..)
P.2
What to do when a partner is condescending:
Therapists say condescending behavior can take many forms, ranging from subtle to outright rude. Examples include belittling comments, patronizing questions, frequent interruptions, eye-rolling, sarcasm and mean jokes.
"It's more common than people think," Sara Nasserzadeh, a social psychologist specializing in sexuality, relationships and intercultural fluency, says of condescending behavior, adding that, cumulatively, these actions can take a vast toll on a relationship. "It's like a little chip away from the trust and respect that you have for your partner.”
wreak havoc on the recipient's mental health
Eats away at self esteem
confidence
ability to make healthy choices
CUES;
What they say
How they say it
How they act around you
How they act around you with others
How do they make me feel and do they care
How often do they do this
What to do:
Confess to your partner how you feel
Seek counseling
Take note of wether or not they have listened or are changing.
Stay soft, pray,
Choose a time to leave if you are not married.
Tuesday Jul 25, 2023
Tuesday Jul 25, 2023
MMM podcast
7-24-23
The David Alliance podcast I just started a 7 part series on the 5 things a Godly wife does for her husband…Plus what a husband does to promote that in her wife.
Emails…
How fast do you cut bait and run???
Youtube comments
After 40 we laugh only 4 times a day… and at best it is a chuckle… In our marriage we use 2 of those chuckles. The average 4 year old laughs 300 times a day.
LAUGHTER LIGHTENS THE MOOD.
LAUGHTER REDUCES STRESS.
LAUGHTER HELPS YOU RECONNECT TO FUN AND PLAY.
Laughter is sexy and attractive
How to laugh more in marriage
Don’t take yourself so seriously
Know your patterns humor
Self deprecate
Change your environment Movie, comedy club, friends
Look for the funny around you
Try some joke telling
Thursday Jul 06, 2023
Thursday Jul 06, 2023
Intro: How was your 4th?
What did you learn about yourself being with your grandkids?
Topic 1
Trust and commitment are the two foundational pillars of any relationship.
How do you celebrate Trust and commitment in your marriage/relationship?
Topic 2
How to identify childhood wounds?
How to deal with them?
To give you a better idea about what constitutes trauma, here are some of the more common events:
Childhood sexual or physical abuse
Witnessing domestic violence
Bullying
Community or school violence
Natural disasters
Loss of a loved one
Neglect
Serious illness or accident
That said, some of the signs of PTSD include:
Reliving the event (flashbacks or nightmares)
Avoidance
Anxiety
Depression
Anger
Problems with trust
Self-destructive or risky behaviors
Withdrawal
If any of these apply to you as an adult for no reason that you can think of, there is some cause for concern as you may be dealing with unresolved PTSD from your childhood.
Attachment and relationships
Another warning flag of childhood trauma that carries over into adulthood are problems forming attachments and relationships. For example, if your childhood trauma was caused by a loved one or caregiver, you may learn to mistrust adults.
Emotional regulation and responses
Another side effect of childhood trauma may be problems regulating your emotions. There are many ways in which this problem can manifest itself, including:
Uncontrollable anger
Anxiety
Depression
An inability to express your emotions
Withdrawal
Again, these are just some examples, and you may experience different issues when it comes to regulating your emotional health.
Physical health
While childhood trauma can directly affect your mental and emotional health, it can also influence your physical health, For example, studies show that kids who were subjected to abuse were more at risk for serious health issues, including:
Diabetes
Coronary artery disease
Asthma
Stroke
Suicide attempts are also shown to be considerably higher among adults who experienced childhood trauma.
Wednesday May 03, 2023
Wednesday May 03, 2023
What is the biggest mistake you made as a parent raising your kids (in the eyes of your spouse)? How do you handle disagreements raising your kids? What are common areas of disagreement in relationships? What are the voices in your head saying and how do you deal with them? How do you handle the silent treatment... and is it ever a healthy way to deal with conflict.
Monday Apr 24, 2023
Monday Apr 24, 2023
Marriage affirmations, words to empower your life and relationships. Understanding your husbands needs for sexual intimacy. What husbands need, and how wives can intuitively serve their marriage by meeting their husbands sexual needs.
Thursday Apr 20, 2023
Thursday Apr 20, 2023
What did your parents do to help set you up for success in marriage? Who does goes where for the holidays? Who were the adults in your life growing up and how did they affect you as an adult? What are the differences in communication between spouses or partners. What conversations capture your complete attention?
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